There is always something special about that first crush we have in middle school, the first person we go out on a date with, the first person we kiss and finally, the first person we fall in love with. The whole joy and thrill of our first everything are surely unmatched. On the other hand, our second love brings us more stability and a more balanced view of things.
While we are not undermining the importance of the ‘first’ of everything, the ‘second’ of everything also sounds pretty great, if not better.
Read on to find out why second love is better than the first love!
1. Breaking up
Sucks, does it not? Our second love comes to our rescue, helping us work on our heartache and look at life and love differently. We find the strength in ourselves to move on and fall in love again, letting love win over our pain and sadness.
When our first love leaves us, it leaves behind permanent scars. We are in the pits of despair, wondering if we will ever fall in love again. We keep on thinking if we do fall in love again, we will be vulnerable. But this is when our second love walks in, telling us that we can love again! It heals us, making us fall for them way more deeply than we had fallen for our first love.
When it is our first love, we are naive and we trust them with all our hearts, in a silly, childish way. However, when it is our second love, things are different. We trust with a maturity that ensures safety but also brings closeness between two people.
After the first heartbreak, we are likely to fall in love with people who present a better shot of security with us. It ultimately leads us towards entering a better relationship since both people involved in the relationship are on the same page.
Well, this one is pretty easy to understand. Experience helps you become more understanding and sensitive to the needs of your partner. As we all know, it is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship.
You have loved and lost, so now you know that love also means pampering the person that you are with. You love them and showing it regularly never hurts.
7. Fewer arguments
You are now aware of the fact that you should not start an argument. Because you know that sometimes, a point is not worth a fight that will upset both you and your partner.
In conclusion, we can say that love makes us feel unlike anything else. But like most other things, it gets better with time. It is a continuous process as we keep changing our approach towards it. We make ourselves more worthy of love and find that special someone that we are supposed to be with. Falling in love also keeps us happy and optimistic when it comes to looking at the world. Our first love is more than just love, it is a learning experience. It teaches us how to build a harmonious relationship with the person we love.