“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” ~ Vernon Howard
Our greatest challenge lies in our effort to follow an approval seeking behavior. You probably would have noticed the fact that when you think too much about other people around you, you end up losing touch with your own self.
“Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.” ~ Lao Tzu
We are given but one life. And we must thus make the most of it, live it the way we want to and not as how others deem it. Here’s a list of 9 reasons why you should be living your life the way you want to and not as how other people decide.
1. You cannot be liked by everyone
No matter how popular and helpful you are, the sad fact of the matter is that not everyone will like you. People will always talk behind you and try to plot your downfall. As Winston Churchill so eloquently puts it, “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”
2. Their approval is not really necessary to live a happy life
The person you are is not defined by the number of people who love or hate you. In our childhood we have all been told more or less that if you want to be like by others you must behave nicely and yet in spite of our best efforts that is not always the case. But just because some person may not like us is not proof that there is something wrong with us. The basic thing that you must realize is that we are complete autonomous beings capable of existing without being subject to judgment.
“Self-worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy.” ~ Wayne Dyer
3. You can’t really control what other people think about you
As Einstein puts it: “ Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocre minds. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence.” Enough said.
4. To seek approval for your behavior is time consuming
To ask each and every person how they feel about certain things that we do is surely a time consuming process. I do strongly believe that such actions are not necessary to live a happy life.
5. Approval seeking behavior drains your energy
Every time you think about what others would think you are not only wasting your time but also your energy.
6. You have the freedom to be whoever you want to
Society places expectation on us and there’s always restrictions and limits that you keep imposing on yourself to toe the line. Let go of this control and you will realize just how much you are missing out on life.
7. Inner Peace
“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” ~ Peace Pilgrim
8. You are in control of your own life and not others
As Arthur Gordon puts it: “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you’ll be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”
9. The only person worth impressing is you yourself
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~ Carl Jung
At the end of the day the only person who should matter is you yourself and if you work and live your life the way you want to, you can do so without any regrets.