“Love can only be found through the act of loving.”― Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
We all are, whether or not we agree, are looking out for humans who love us no matter what. We are all looking for him/her like a man with his head on fire looks for water. Not many will accept that they need love or ‘the one’ right away, but deep down everyone loves to be loved. We all, deep down, blossom with the idea of having an ‘once in a lifetime’ love story.
No longer are we satisfied merely by conventionally and conveniently adhering to specific ideals of the normative culture. We are searching for that once in a lifetime crazy type of love—but what really separates twin flames from soulmates and karmic relationships? One must understand that relationships of different types cannot be compared against each other. Their importance and role depends on what stage we are at in our own lives.
“Soulmates aren’t the ones who make you happiest, no. They’re instead the ones you make you feel the most. Burning edges and scars and stars. Old pains and pangs, captivation and beauty. Strain and shadows and worry and yearning. Sweetness and madness and dreamlike surrender. They hurl you into the abyss. They taste like hope.” ~ V.Erickson
We may experience all three in one life or just one but when we are in into it, we’ll hardly realize its type. It is only when we are past it, that we learn the vital lessons that we learn.
One of the first relationships we get into is Karmic one.
There are supposed to teach us lessons from the previous life which we failed to grasp earlier. The thing with karmic relationships is that they are not supposed to work. Even if you give it all that you can, it will never lead onto a prosperous future. It will seem unfair and you might want to scream your heart out at it, but we aren’t supposed live our lives with our karmic partner. In terms of unrequited love we feel during this period, the worst thing to do is not let go. If we hold on to this person for too long and elongate the healing process, that just prevents us from moving forward to newer possibilities of happiness.
“Karmic relationships burn hot and seem almost intoxicating at times, but the entire point of these types of relationships is to come into our lives, change us—and then leave.” People who do not let go on time and end up marrying their karmic partners, live in frustration and pool of sadness. Mostly those marriages end in divorces.
Soul mate love.
Though one may experience karmic relationships more than once, but the next one is just the best sort of love. The soul mate love is the best kind and is a blend of sweet and complex all at once. With soulmates we have a unique connection and marrying them is the best choice we can make.
To choose to build a life with them and help each other grow is the best thing one can do with their soulmate. “We simply attract at whatever frequency we are currently vibrating on.” Our soulmates make us feel that we need them, that we require them for survival.
Some soulmates’ job is only to make us go into deep self reflection and answer those important questions about ourselves. And post that, they have to leave.
Now, we come to twin flames:
As society is raising their level of consciousness, the more this connection is occurring. It’s a mix of karmic and soul mate tendencies coupled with newer qualities that further educate and enhance the sense of self and our ego. Twin flames are someone we share the same soul with.
According to a theory, twin flames were one soul source initially and split into two later, to be united some day. Both these souls mirror each other and help us confront our fears as well as deep, repressed desires.
Not all can be united with their twin flame but the golden chance is always there to get this ‘once in a lifetime sort of love’.