Where would you be without friends? The people to pick you up when you need lifting? We come from homes far from perfect, so you end up almost parent and sibling to your friends – your own chosen family. There’s nothing like a really loyal, dependable, good friend. Nothing.
– Jennifer Aniston
If you have made it this far reading the article, I can well assume that you are the person most people turn to. Now, when this happens, you start feeling increasingly overwhelmed from all that pressure you take on yourself. In a world which consists of only giving and taking: you only give and others only take.
You are therefore the pillar who holds everyone up. Whenever someone is feeling lost, it is you who shows and directs them towards a certain path. You hold the solution to the endless problems that they have on their mind. You have to employ your rational thinking and experience to salvage them through their personal mess. In short, when life has shut down all doors on them, they turn to you for newer avenues. You are the fixer of all problems.
When people break, you are the one who puts them back together.
What most people never notice is how you set aside your work immediately when they approach you and make their priorities you own. In a world ruled by greed and violence, such selflessness is rare.
But every time you put yourself on the back burner, you give up a little piece of your soul. However, you can feel that with each passing instance the more you give away freely, the more you lose yourself to others. This concentration of time and energy will continuously drain you to a point whether you will turn absolutely hollow.
When you hold the ability to turn chaos into calm, people think you are almost indestructible. It’s not that they are selfish and don’t care about you, it’s just that they forget that even you may have problems. And I wouldn’t really blame them for this complacency. You see, people wish to believe that you are indestructible. They do not wish to believe that the person who has helped them get back on track could be having problems of his own. They don’t realize how badly you crave the same support that you offer to everyone else.
It is therefore imperative that you remind everyone that you are just as human and that no one can survive being alone all the time. A solo act is a strict no-no. Open up to your friends. Let them know that even you have problems and you need their support.
It is absolutely okay to refuse people who have taken you for granted. Always put yourself over others. You are not Atlas and it’s high time you stopped bearing the weight if the world on your shoulders. Everybody needs a break, it’s time you took one.
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